Part of Our Story
We’ve been wanting to write this post for some time now, and it seems more fitting than ever to share our story with you. Our dear friend and photographer, Elizabeth Shey, has a way of drawing out the story in anyone, and these photos are such a genuine representation of the conversations during our time together.
Our story has much to do with why we started When We Wed in the first place. We wanted to share how two incredibly different people with contrasting backgrounds, upbringings and life experiences could build a life together. The adventure after vows. While we do have many things in common, we would describe our marriage as a continuous conversation to learn, to value, to protect, and encourage the unique differences we both bring to the table of our ever growing relationship. In the last three plus years of marriage, we’ve learned to cherish the diversity in our relationship and become better conversationalists to one another.
[Sé]: To start off, our story is your non-typical, farm-boy-meets-city-girl scenario. I'm a Seoul native, so 25 million people in one city seems like a cozy feeling of home to me. When Christopher and I became close friends in 2011, I began to learn how much his farm roots in Door County, Wisconsin had shaped his values and the way he expresses those values daily. When we talk to other couples about what had brought them together initially, we often hear that it was through common interest or “seeing eye to eye with one another.” I would say what brought us together was the curiosity of our differences. I remember early in our college years, we had a class together where he asked a question that made me wonder long after it was over on how he could’ve possibly solicited such a clever and provoking thought. I was intrigued, and as we engaged in more conversations about how we view the world through our very different lenses and life experiences, I became all the more fond of him.
[Chris]: Fast forward 5 years and I think we are still intrigued by those differences. Just this morning over breakfast, we slowly ate and sipped our coffee as we talked about the state of the world, US politics, and how our unique backgrounds and upbringings form the lens we view all this through. I know for me, that difference has been one of the things that keeps me in a constant state of wanting to know Sé. I want to learn how being raised in Seoul, moving to a foreign country, and learning a new language shaped her to be the woman she is today. I think in part it’s what caused me to dig into cooking Korean food, to struggle to learn Korean, and to genuinely take an interest in Korean history, which ended up being the focus of my Master’s capstone. She’s different than me, and that’s interesting to me. A lot of times with difference you get friction. That’s all too true in marriage. In those times I’ve found that instead of straying away from that tension, we’ve engaged and learned to appreciate the different perspectives we bring to this family.
In the end, we’re better because of it.
As you’ve seen from our previous posts, we value and prioritize travel, but just sightseeing is not enough for us. We love to travel because it expands our worldview every time. It’s not enough for us to take photos, sip coffee (even though that is one of our favorite things we do together), and say that we’ve been-there-done-that. We believe in global citizenship, which means we want to grow in understanding of every place we visit: the culture, the politics, the arts, what have you. Our passion to be more connected with the world around us (far and wide) has been fueled by our individual differences that we both bring to our marriage.
And it’s still the best adventure we’ve ever set out on.
All the best,